If they are pointing higher than you I guess your problem is main sheet tension!

Most sailors sail with the main traveler 5 cm from center at minimum an use a lot of main sheet tension. When single trapezing and marginal double trapzeing conditions you should be able to oversheet the main before you sheet block2block, the lee telltale should be "nervous". To oversheet the main you really need to sheet HARD!

Your total weight should be between 125-145 kg. If you are below 125 kg you need to add weight to get to 130 kg and if you are above 145 kg you are in trouble.

/hakan